If you are experiencing major internal changes right now, perhaps some of these questions sound familiar. “I don’t connect with the same friends as I used to,” or “I just don’t want to do the things that I used to.” On face value these statements sound, feel, and look like negative experiences and, yes, they can be extremely painful. Nevertheless, we often forget they can be part of the healing process as well.

Once you identify and heal a changed aspect of yourself, for you to be congruent with who you are, your external world is asked to change as well. Unfortunately, many of us forget that these changes often “show up” with losses in the external world, and quickly. The fact that many of them are not in your immediate control, can be even more unsettling.

As we heal and go to counseling, our energetic vibration raises, that which no longer resonates with us, has to do one of two things. Adapt and raise its vibration as well, or be experienced as a loss. In other words, if you don’t resonate with something, someone, or a relationship as you used to, changes can occur to reflect that in your external world.

Could you consider the possibility that a loss may be occurring because some aspects of your life are longer congruent with who you are, because of your growth?